Being a Leader

If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.” John Quincy Adams

So many of us don’t see ourselves as leaders. We tell ourselves we couldn’t possibly do what others do when they stand up in the middle of a room guiding others. We think you have to be born to lead. And certainly, while some may have a natural ability to lead, each of us is a leader if what we do, how we live or how we serve – helps others do more, become more or learn more. Maybe our reach isn’t as big as others we see. We might not be the President. We might not be famous. But, we are all leaders nonetheless if we take steps in our life to inspire others in some way. As a parent, employee, friend, partner or child – we all can lead others even if we merely choose to live our lives as an example to others. Yet, we dismiss all those acts and think they don’t count. Instead of dismissing what we do, however, it’s important that we recognize and see the ways we lead for several reasons. First, it helps us prioritize our actions and take greater responsibility over our lives if we know our influence on others. In a sense, leadership builds greater accountability. Also, knowing that we lead in some way, can help us begin to build that muscle – the one that says we don’t know how to lead or don’t dare to. When we build on the confidence we have in one area, we can begin to see how we might expand our reach and help others on a broader scale. We take fear out of the equation and pursue our purpose with greater ease. We don’t let what others think get in the way and instead focus on good we can do. So, the more we stand in leader, the greater leaders we can become.

Weekly Path to Peace: Step up and own Leader.

  • How often do you say to yourself, I wish I could do that? I wish I could lead a room full of people or inspire others to action. We doubt our own abilities and can’t see that we are already the leaders we wish we could be. Notice, however, how many people you actually influence a day. From a simple smile, a kind gesture or a lesson taught to a child. This week, spend time noticing all the ways you already lead and show others how to be better.
  • Take action to step up and own being a leader. What is one way you can lead this week? It doesn’t have to be grand. Ask yourself how you might be able to inspire others this week or help someone do something great for themselves? Celebrate being a leader and know that with each small step you are building a new muscle you can own!

As you begin this week, rate your level of happiness, self-esteem and self-confidence on a scale of 1-10, with 1 being not satisfied and 10 being very satisfied. Notice where you are Sunday evening after you do this week’s peace practice to see if there is a change.