“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone’s highlight reel.” Steve Furtick
It’s human nature to compare. We wonder if what we have or how we’re doing something is good enough. On the positive side, comparisons can drive us to do better and achieve more. More often than not, though, comparisons breed insecurity that hold us back from living our true purpose. But comparisons are really nothing more than illusions because the thing we’re comparing ourself against is never equal. Too often we’re trying to compare where we are in our beginning stages of a finish product, without realizing the work it took to get there. We come up with excuses, saying we can’t ever be like what we see – so why bother. And then we get depressed, spinning further and further away from what we initially wanted to do or be. What we don’t realize, however, is that we are the only roadblock that stands in our way. Maybe we won’t be like the person or thing we are comparing ourselves to, but who wants that anyway? The key is to live our own purpose without letting the comparison get in the way. We have to break the illusion of what we see and recognize that we’re just looking at the highlights. No one talks about it, but the road to success might be built with only one or two successes and is littered with a pile of failures. So, what is the only difference between someone who succeeds and fails? Well, that person might just recognize that the comparisons they make are only illusions – something to learn from, but not something to hold us back. Like anything else, our path is always unique and although someone else may look like they’ve got it perfected – you might just do it in a new and more spectacular way.
Weekly Path to Peace: Stop comparing.
- Do you even notice how much you compare? Whether it’s your weight, your work, your hair – whatever, how much are you comparing yourself to others? When you go to try something new, do you wonder if someone else has already done it – or done it better? Look to see how much you compare and how it’s holding you back from living your purpose.
- Break the illusion of comparison. Are you using comparison to self-sabotage? This week try and stop yourself from comparing. Write out the quote above or give yourself a reminder that often the comparison is simply an illusion. You can’t compare a finished product to something that is just in the initial phases. Let them go, notice what happens and what you can start to accomplish.
As you begin this week, rate your level of happiness, self-esteem and self-confidence on a scale of 1-10, with 1 being not satisfied and 10 being very satisfied. Notice where you are Sunday evening after you do this week’s peace practice to see if there is a change.