“The only thing you can really control is how you react to things out of your control.” Bassam Tarazi
Being out of control is extremely difficult for most of us. An unexpected break-up, a child’s emotional pain, a seemingly never-ending difficult financial crisis – situations that make us feel out of control and enormously stressed. Our first inclination is to blame ourselves. We wonder, “What did I do to cause this?” “How is this my fault?” “I must be so unworthy
Weekly Path to Peace: Be out of control.
- What is your reaction to being out of control? Do you feel physical tension in your body? If so, where? What do you tell yourself when things don’t work out? If your first inclination is to blame yourself, just spend the early part of this week noticing all of the ways you blame yourself or even make others wrong. Notice the discomfort you have with being out of control and the ways you try to exert control over the situation.
- For the second part of the week, let yourself feel “out of control”. Look for the lessons or wisdom in the moment. Lean into the pain. Remind yourself that things are currently out of your control and that this too may lead to something bigger, greater or more important. Instead of trying to control what is happening, remind yourself to trust that everything may not be as it seems.
As you begin this week, rate your level of happiness, self-esteem and self-confidence on a scale of 1-10, with 1 being not satisfied and 10 being very satisfied. Notice where you are Sunday evening after you do this week’s peace practice to see if there is a change.