Love Yourself Better

You protect your being when you love yourself better. That’s the secret.” Isabelle Adjani

We all know that the more we are able to love ourselves, the happier we’ll feel. But, let’s face it; most of us really don’t know how to truly love ourselves. We try affirmations, massages or self-help books, yet that negative voice still sneaks in – criticizing, judging and bringing us down. To make ourselves feel better we might keep busy, drink too much or even work out in excess. We might find relief, but it’s usually temporary. The pain and self-doubts return no matter how much we’ve tried to outrun it. Maybe the trick then isn’t to try and escape our negative selves, but instead learn to protect our self-love by making deliberate choices. Really loving ourselves means making countless choices daily that we know will support our self-esteem, courage and confidence.  It means doing the things we say we’re going to do and staying aligned with our personal goals. Eating well, meditating, exercising, accepting our flaws, saying no and setting boundaries; all ways we can show ourselves love. Loving ourselves better means not second guessing our every step and getting out of relationships that don’t serve us. When we love ourselves better, we learn not to settle for second best or play small. We give up the excuses we know are holding us back and really put ourselves first. It might seem foreign to treat ourselves as such precious beings, but the more we do that, the more we’ll be able to really love all of who we are. It’s easy to make choices that keep us from what we want because we prioritize pleasure over self-love – but what we don’t realize is that it’s just as easy to make choices that will help us feel really good long term. All it takes is remembering this idea of loving ourselves better and the steps simply fall in place.

Weekly Path to Peace: Love yourself better.

  • How well do you really love yourself? Do you go through periods of feeling great, only followed by a wave of self-loathing or negativity? Notice all of the ways you try to love yourself and gage how well they’re really working. Are your efforts designed to really nourish your being or simply mask how you feel? Spend the first part of this week noticing the kind of love you are currently giving yourself.
  • Take steps to love yourself better. What do you know you need to do or stop doing right now to love yourself better? Are you setting healthy boundaries, eating well and doing the things to make yourself emotionally healthy? Identify at least five things you can do this week that will help you love yourself better.

As you begin this week, rate your level of happiness, self-esteem and self-confidence on a scale of 1-10, with 1 being not satisfied and 10 being very satisfied. Notice where you are Sunday evening after you do this week’s peace practice to see if there is a change.