Maturity is Becoming Awakened

Part of spiritual and emotional maturity is recognizing that it’s not like you’re going to try to fix yourself and become a different person. You remain the same person, but you become awakened.” Jack Kornfield

There is this belief that as you become spiritually mature, you’ll somehow become a different person – that you’ll no longer have bad reactions and will walk around singing Kumbaya. The truth is that as you begin to journey down the path of spiritual and emotional maturity, you’re still human. You’re still going to feel wounded, hurt, angry and even have moments that you’re ashamed of. The only difference is that those reactionary moments become fewer; they come with awareness and an awakening that wasn’t previously available to you. Maturity means gaining freedom of choice – rather than flying off the handle, you’re able to take a moment and act from a higher space instead of reacting from your pain. Also, as you grow, rather than beat yourself up for your missteps, you’ll find compassion for yourself and others in a way you previously couldn’t. The mistake we make is thinking that spirituality, automatically equals maturity. We’ve all met those people who call themselves spiritual, but still have not attained the maturity to experience true spiritual and emotional growth. They may do spiritual things, but miss the opportunity to experience real growth because they lack the maturity needed to be different. The same goes for people who might not outwardly seem spiritual, but quietly do their work; they’re not trying to fix anything or anyone – they’re simply mature. They’re awakened because they’re able to see how they contribute to their situations and how they alone have the power to change things. That kind of spiritual maturity can only come from a willingness and humility to see our own humanness. For when we do, we can finally receive the peace, contentment and joy we’ve continually searched for.

Weekly Path to Peace: Embrace spiritual and emotional maturity.

  • Emotional and spiritual maturity begins when we’re truly willing to see the world differently. This week begin by simply noticing your own level of spiritual and emotional maturity. Be honest. Do you do spiritual things such as meditate, but still beat yourself or others up for their mistakes? Simply begin by being honest.
  • Embrace your maturity. Let go of trying to fix or change one person or situation this week. Rather than looking for someone else to change, what is one pattern or behavior that you can change that will help you grow and become spiritually and emotionally mature. Take action this week.

As you begin this week, rate your level of happiness, self-esteem and self-confidence on a scale of 1-10, with 1 being not satisfied and 10 being very satisfied. Notice where you are Sunday evening after you do this week’s peace practice to see if there is a change.