Make A Decision

The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. The fears are paper tigers. You can do anything you decide to do. You can act to change and control your life; and the procedure, the process is its own reward.” Amelia Earhart

“What if I make the wrong choice? How can I be sure?” So many of us struggle with making a decision because we’re afraid we might get it wrong. We torture ourselves by running through all of the various possibilities and end up paralyzing ourselves into inaction. And before we know it, days, months and even years go by without anything ever changing for us. At the root of most of our indecisiveness is fear – we just don’t trust ourselves to do it right. We end up asking everyone else for advice, but still do nothing because our fear of getting it wrong is so convincing. The truth is, though, that our fears are nothing more than paper tigers – they look scary and dangerous, yet carry no real bite. Once we have the courage to actually pull the trigger, everything we want on the other side of our fears is there for us to grab. All it takes at that point is the endurance, desire and tenacity to really go after it. Indecision holds us back like nothing else in our life. It keeps us playing small, tells us how far we can go in life and – whether we are aware of it or not – is actually a decision itself to stay right where we are. Rather than asking ourselves what if I get it wrong, we should be asking ourselves what might I lose if I don’t take a chance? So what if you get it wrong. In every “mistake” there is a wisdom or lesson that will move you forward. The process of falling down and getting back up again is the reward. There is something powerful in knowing that you can make a choice and even if things don’t go the way you envisioned, that you can still choose another direction that will move you toward your goals. After all, when you realize that the power to change and control your life is entirely yours, no choice could ever be wrong – it’s just one that takes you further down your personal path.

Weekly Path to Peace: Make new decisions.

  • Where do you worry that you might make the wrong choice? Where has your inability to decide held you back, kept you playing small or left you feeling stuck or frozen. Begin this week by observing how making the wrong decision is keeping you down. Do you spend hours worrying or playing out different scenarios? Take time to journal about how you are held back by your inability to decide.
  • Make an important decision this week. Pick one area where you have put off making an important decision and make it. Does it require you to do something or have an important conversation with someone else? Write out the steps you’ll need to take in order to carry out your decision and actively take the steps to put it into action.

As you begin this week, rate your level of happiness, self-esteem and self-confidence on a scale of 1-10, with 1 being not satisfied and 10 being very satisfied. Notice where you are Sunday evening