“Just let go. Let go of how you thought your life should be, and embrace the life that is trying to work its way into your consciousness.” Caroline Myss
Easier said than done. We all have an image of how we think our life should be. That might mean being married, having kids, never divorcing like our parents or being incredibly successful. We grow up being told to expect those things – and when they don’t turn out exactly as we planned – we become frustrated and quietly resentful. It’s not that we don’t see the good in our life; it’s just that we can’t help but notice the things we’re missing. Why is it that others can have it so easily and we’re still stuck wanting and waiting? When we get in that loop of asking ourselves why, it becomes difficult to accept our life as it is. And even though it’s not our intention, the constant questioning, self-blame and worry leaves us emotionally drained. Instead of going with the flow of our life, we make it our mission to “go after” what it is that want – not recognizing that maybe by holding on so tightly we are shutting the door to the life that has been trying to work its way into our consciousness. When we hold onto that vision as the only possibility, we put on blinders to what might actually be trying to work its way into our view. Maybe it isn’t the life we envisioned or what we want long-term, but maybe – if we can embrace our life exactly as it is – we open the door to greater things than we imagined. After all, the reason we want some of those outside goals (marriage, kids, etc.), is to feel some greater purpose or meaning in our life. We struggle and fight for what we think we want, yet ignore what might be right in front of us. That is not to say that we need to give up on our visions. It’s just that once we allow for other views to enter our awareness, we allow ourselves to discover the beauty that wasn’t previously available to us. Instead of being so determined, we can instead surrender and appreciate our life – exactly as it is.
Weekly Path to Peace: Let go and embrace the life that is.
- Where are you currently frustrated or not achieving what you say you most want? How much energy – emotional or
physical– have you exerted in trying to get to where you want? Notice all the areas you feel frustrated or are resisting your life as it currently is. Ask yourself, what do I most need to accept about my circumstances. Is it that you haven’t achieved what you said? Is that you don’t believe it will ever be possible? Really look at what you haven’t wanted to accept.
- Practice letting go. Every morning, look for at least three things to be grateful for in your life as it currently is, not as it might be. Post reminders about letting go. Use the above quote (or another of your choice) and put it somewhere you can see it 3-5 times per day as a reminder to consciously let go of the way you believe your life should be and embrace the life that is.
As you begin this week, rate your level of happiness, self-esteem and self-confidence on a scale of 1-10, with 1 being not satisfied and 10 being very satisfied. Notice where you are Sunday evening after you do this week’s peace practice to see if there is a change