Happy, Just Because

Happiness for a reason is just another form of misery because the reason can be taken away from us at any time.” Deepak Chopra

How often have you said to yourself, “I’ll be happy when _____.” I’ll be happy when I meet the one. I’ll be happy when I get that dream job. I’ll be happy when I lose 20 pounds. The problem with looking at happiness this way is that happiness becomes something we wait for and something that can be taken away. Happiness becomes a goal to be achieved or an arrival destination; something that ought to be earned. And, like Deepak Chopra says, when we attach a reason for our happiness, it becomes another form of misery because it becomes fleeting – like water pouring through a sieve, always beyond our reach. But, what if we allowed happiness simply to exist everyday? To sit side-by-side next to our sadness, sorrow or pain? To be a friend that we can rely on to be there regardless of our circumstances? When we recognize that happiness is available to us always, we shift our whole perspective. Imagine what it might feel like to simply accept that happiness exists for you right at this moment? Instead of looking for our happiness in another person or thing, there is something comforting knowing that we can source our own good feelings no matter where we find ourselves. Confidence and self-esteem grows and, more importantly, we develop a trust that good things will come our way, even if we can’t see a light leading us out at this very moment. When we choose to be happy just because, fear no longer controls our life and simply becomes a sign for us to pay attention, push ourselves or change our circumstances. The truth is being happy doesn’t have to take work; it is a state of mind that comes from accepting what we have before us fully. It comes from getting that even if we aren’t where we want to be, that this moment is perfect and if we don’t pay attention, we might just miss what we came here to learn.  

Weekly Path to Peace: Choose happiness just because.  

  • Notice how you have been delaying your happiness. Complete the following sentence: I’ll be happy when ________. Fill in all the different reasons you give for putting off being happy in this very moment. For example, I’ll be happy when I move, lose weight, find my partner. Keep listing all the different beliefs you have about what will make you happy without any judgment.
  • Even if you aren’t where you currently want to be, set an intention to find happiness every day. One method to invite happiness in is to begin each day by writing down three things you are grateful for. End each day by looking for the gifts, lessons or wisdom of your life right now – exactly as it is.

 

As you begin this week, rate your level of happiness on a scale of 1-10, with 1 being very unhappy and 10 being very happy. Notice where you are Sunday evening after you do this week’s peace practice to see if there is a change.