“A change in behavior begins with a change in the heart.” Unknown
All behavioral changes happen in the heart, not the head. But, what does that really mean? We’ve all probably had the experience of reading a “self-help” book, deeply connecting with the message – knowing for certain that this was the missing piece that will finally change our patterns. And then a few short weeks later, we find ourselves doing the same thing over after we swore we would never ever do again. We tell ourselves we’re weak or need some accountability, but underneath it all it’s because the message hasn’t really made its way past our guarded ego. Maybe deep down we know we need to change, but our mind is so busy beating us up for our negative patterns. At the same time, change is a perceived threat by our ego – so it holds on tighter and doesn’t allow any meaningful transformation to begin. If we are really to change
Weekly Path to Peace: Open yourself up to your heart.
Examine your current desire to change a behavior or pattern you feel no longer serves you. Do you tell yourself you should change? Do you find yourself beating yourself for all of your missteps and mistakes? Notice how often you tell yourself you “should” or “have to” change. Just observe and take notes for a couple of days.
If you didn’t have to change or think you should do things differently, what changes would you be ready to make? What feelings would be present if you were able to make these changes? What would be different if you didn’t beat yourself up this week or demand you change? Ask these questions and allow