Embrace Endings

Sunsets are proof that endings can often be beautiful too.” Beau Taplin

We all fear the end of things. From the simple end of a vacation to the most life-altering end of a relationship or loss of life, we’ve been taught to fear the end of things. Perhaps the simplest explanation for why is that we fear the unknown – that we have no idea what tomorrow will look like because we’ve gotten so used to yesterday and today. But, maybe, it’s deeper than that. Maybe our discomfort with endings really has to do with our own identify; who we know ourselves to be. If you think about it, when we’re on vacation, we usually like our spouse, our children or ourselves more because we’re all a happier version of ourselves. The fear is that when we come back, it goes away. The same thing happens when we lose someone – a parent, a loved one or a friend – we go through questioning of who we are now since that person is gone. And instead of embracing what is happening in the moment, we grab hold of the rope that connects us to our past and resist the ending with all our might. It causes deep suffering and if we’re not careful – keeps us stuck in that purgatory of loss and disenchantment. The antidote to handling endings, then is to simply remember that like a sunset, endings can carry magnificent beauty. Maybe it’s an opportunity to make some significant changes in our life or perhaps we’re now free to be who we were always meant to be. Sunsets still shine. So can we. It just means adopting a different perspective and remembering that this too comes with something we can remember and cherish. So, instead of running into the arms of safety, maybe we can approach our life fearlessly – not worrying about what we might lose, but what can be gained with each new ending.

Weekly Path to Peace: Embrace your endings.

  • What endings are you running from? What part of yourself are you afraid you might lose or never regain? Is there someplace that you’re still stuck in the past, holding on to who you once were? Take a look at all the way you fear endings or are being held back because you haven’t moved on from one. Even the small ways. Allow yourself to be honest.
  • Embrace at least one ending. Even if it’s one that hasn’t happened or may not, embrace the fact that the ending may bring a new you, a new reality or a new opportunity. Rather than being afraid of “what if”, look at how you can shift your perspective and breathe in the possibility. The Universe is always giving you an opportunity to become more – just like a beautiful sunset. See what shifts when you remind yourself of that.

As you begin this week, rate your level of happiness, self-esteem and self-confidence on a scale of 1-10, with 1 being not satisfied and 10 being very satisfied. Notice where you are Sunday evening after you do this week’s peace practice to see if there is a change.