“Almost everything – all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things fall away in the face of death. Leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.” Steve Jobs
We hold back too often because we are afraid. We are afraid of embarrassing ourselves, of being seen as a failure or not meeting expectations (our own and others). We expend so much energy trying to do things right, we tend to forget the importance of following our heart’s plan. And while we may find it uncomfortable to use our ultimate death as a reminder, knowing that we are already naked – already completely exposed – will help us from falling into the trap that we have something to lose. Despite the efforts we put into appearing or being a certain way, we all feel vulnerable and we all want to feel our purpose. We forget that truth because we buy into our own stories. We tell ourselves we can’t and even worse, get wrapped up in what others want from us. But, we have to remember that fear is a liar – fear is just there to keep us thinking we can’t or that it is dangerous to go for what we know we most want. Fear is make believe and makes us believe that what we don’t know will hurt us. Yet, when we “snap out of it” and recognize that we have little time or have nothing to lose, there is a sudden urgency of fulfilling our heart’s plan – and it really is a plan and not so much desire because we know, deep in our core, that the voice won’t be
Weekly Path to Peace: Follow your heart.
- Even if this seems a little dark, write out a list of all the things you would do differently if you knew you only had one year to live or even more simply – knew you wouldn’t be judged. What would you do that you aren’t doing now? What would you stop doing? Put down to paper all of the ways that you would express your heart’s purpose and plan.
- Take one step this week toward fulfilling your heart’s plan. Even if you are afraid, simply post a reminder that you are already naked and go for it. Promise yourself not to judge yourself or allow others’ criticism to affect you. If you can’t do it alone, find a friend or coach to help you take your first steps!