“Avoiding fear, sadness or anger is not the same thing as
Nothing could be truer. Stuffing down our sadness or fear doesn’t bring us closer to being happy – it brings us closer to being numb. We mistakenly think that if we give in to our anger and sadness, that it will consume us and we won’t be able to function in our daily lives. We push it away and put on a happy face for others – all the while building a volcano deep inside ourselves – ready to erupt at any moment. We might even fool ourselves into thinking that we are actually happy, at least for a while. But, inevitably, we wake up one day unable to feel anything – or worse yet, deeply depressed. Like Zelda Williams says, the reason most of us stuff away our dark feelings, is that we resent them. Most of us are on a lifelong quest to feel happy, so any feelings of sadness are unwelcome and interfere with our grand goals. Yet, if we were to take her advice and
Weekly Path to Peace: Stop resenting your emotions.
- How often do you tell yourself to just push the negative thoughts away or if only you think positively, you will simply be happy.
Beginthis week to notice the ways you resent your sadness, anger or fear. Do you berate yourself for your feelings? Do you ignore your fears? Simply take note of all of the different ways you resent your emotions.
- Begin each day reminding yourself to simply
liveyour sadness, fear or anger instead of resenting it. Give yourself time to grieve or scream. Be afraid without fighting it or making it go away. The more you can simply free yourself of the restrictions, the better able you will be able to flow through and enjoy the gifts all our emotions bring .