“Loneliness, when accepted, becomes a gift that will lead us to find a purpose in life.” Paul Coehlo
Most of us will do anything to avoid feeling lonely – we work too much, overschedule ourselves, or bury ourselves in others’ lives – just to escape the emptiness we associate with being lonely. The main reason most of us fear and loath loneliness is that we really associate it with being alone – which, for many of us, is nothing more than a judgment about ourselves. If we are alone, we are unlovable. If we are alone, we don’t belong. If we are alone, we aren’t worthy. All of these beliefs – yes, they are nothing more than beliefs – are wrong. Although we crave companionship as humans, how we accomplish that is totally up to us. Perhaps we aren’t really meant to have a traditional life where companionship is our only source of self. Indeed, rather than focus on our loneliness, we can begin to use our time to recognize what we were brought here to do. Maybe even, this time of loneliness was perfectly designed to give you the time to find your soul’s purpose. Accepting the loneliness, then becomes so important so that we can begin to find how we were most meant to serve. Imagine if we missed our calling simply because we were so focused on filling the void rather than listening for clues? And more importantly, what if our soul’s purpose IS the way we were meant to find our companionship or partnership? If we are too busy with our head to the ground, fighting what is the whole way, we will miss the gift. That is why it becomes so important for us to really sit and accept our loneliness and all its discomfort until we are able to gather from it whatever information it came to bring.
Weekly Path to Peace: Accept your loneliness.
- How do you run from loneliness? Do you work too much? Bury yourself in your kids’ lives? Perhaps you eat or drink too much. Spend a couple of days noticing and writing down all the ways you run from loneliness. Understanding our patterns is the first step toward transformation.
- Acceptance is often the hardest thing to do. Begin this week by understanding that the loneliness you feel now is designed to bring you closer to your heart’s true purpose. Each time you feel a pang of sadness, simply recall that this is here to lead you to something better. And then take the next step of writing down all the ways you could or would want to express your true self.