Resolve to Discover Yourself

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If you asked me my New Year’s Resolution, it would be to find out who I am.”  Cyril Cusack

Almost half of New Year’s resolutions focus on health or fitness, with the rest focusing on career, education and entertainment. And almost invariably, by the time January is over, half of us have already lost our resolve to do what we set out to do – even if we have the best of intentions to make changes in our lives. The reality is that resolutions are often wrapped in guilt. We sometimes make resolutions because we believe we should be doing certain things and almost never really seek to discover whether we want to be doing those things. Because our hearts are not in our resolutions, we tend to fall short and give us yet another reason to beat ourselves up. So, maybe the key is that we need to make different types of resolutions. Rather than make another New Year’s Resolution that involves doing something, perhaps we can make resolutions that resolve simply to be. This year, what might it look like to discover who you are and who you want to be before setting goals about what you want to do? Imagine a year where the only thing you are required to do is understand yourself. Give yourself permission to let go of who you thought you were up until this point, and, like a newborn baby, set out to discover who you are in every area of your life. Sometimes, we begin each year with a vision for our following year – but what if this year you began with a blank slate and allowed yourself to fill in the puzzle pieces, one-by-one as you begin to understand who you are and what you really like? When we clear out our expectations, we give ourselves permission to let go of the past and create a life based 100 percent in who we are and what we love. And because our only goal is to really understand ourselves, there can be no failure or disappointment – leading us to feel more genuinely happy and connected.

Weekly Path to Peace: Resolve to Discovery Yourself.

  • Even if you make other tangible resolutions this New Year’s, make a simple goal to find out who you really are this year. Build a vision board with all the different areas of your life: career, relationships, family, spiritual, financial, health, environment and fun and leave it blank. As you get to know yourself over the course of this year, allow yourself to fill in the various areas.
  • Vow to read twelve inspiring books this year that will help you get to know yourself better. Use these books to help you connect with your beliefs, thoughts, desires and hopes so that you can set out on your journey of discovery.