"Once we recognize that the world is a projection of our consciousness, we also recognize that the only way to change the world in a meaningful way is to bring about a shift in our own consciousness. The world is a mirror in every moment, in every situation, in every circumstance and in every relationship. Deepak Chopra❤"...
We have all heard that people come into our life for a reason. For me, it has been incredibly powerful to understand that I don’t have to search for that reason; everyone in my life is a mirror here to show
In our coaching work, we spend time learning that in order to be happy and truly fulfilled, we must own every quality we see in the world and in others; even embracing the parts of ourselves we have disowned and projected onto our friends, loved ones and strangers. In this way, we can then recognize that everyone is a gift in our lives, leading us to grow, learn, look inside and ultimately heal ourselves.
Recently I felt the incredible power of this concept and
All that changed, however, when one day my ex was thrown a curve ball that found me looking at him with new eyes. Instead of seeing him as the villain in my life story, I suddenly saw him as vulnerable and in need kindness and compassion. And while extending kindness to him initially felt good, I also found myself gripped with a new fear. What if he no longer showed up in my life as a villain? What would that mean about me and where would all my negative projections go if he wasn’t there to hold them?
In that moment, I suddenly realized how responsible I had been in keeping up our long-term dynamic. Although I intellectually understood that this dynamic might be offering me an opportunity to shift, the reality was that I was really attached to the idea that he could own these parts for me! See, if he showed up as an idiot or a bad parent, that meant that I was smart and an awesome parent. I could really focus on all my
In that moment of consciousness, I was able to do what Deepak suggests, experience a real shift. I could decide to continue our old patterns and rob myself of real change, or I could recognize deep down what I already knew in my heart – all the things I was calling him, I was too. If he was a bad parent, jerk or an idiot
I always look for ways that the world reflects our partnership with others in carrying forth our message of peace. As this story reflects, our partners in peace may not always come from the most obvious place.
Peace and love,